From the outside looking in my life probably screams stereotypical “Expat Wife” – Yes, I have a ring on my finger and the baby seat in my 4×4 – But don’t always judge a book by it’s cover.
It’s ridiculous but I hate being called an “Expat Wife”. I am an Expat and I am a Wife but I hate the stereotype that goes with it. Whilst many women are content fighting for their spot in the social hierarchy of obnoxious spoilt bitches, we aren’t all like that!
There are so many misconceptions about the Wife Life;
I am rich – Lets blow that out the water straight away! Life is comfortable but we are not rich, far from it. Like everyone else we have bills to pay then a mortgage, nursery fees, financial commitments, groceries etc. And what is left after all that goes towards savings for a future that we can’t even predict.
I am a lady of leisure – Just because I’m not in a 9 – 5 job doesn’t mean that my life is worth anything less than those collecting their salary. Many wives would LOVE to work but we can’t due to visa regulations and red tape in our host country.
Instead I take on the role of home maker. Unfortunately for me that involves longer working hours, 7 days a week, less social interaction and hugely dedcuted salary compared to those in employment.
I’m arrogant – If you jump the queue or block my way whilst I’m wrestling with my toddler who just wants to leave, I will say something. If I see your child being physically aggressive towards my child, I will say something. If you charge me more money purely because I’m white, I’ll say something. If you blatantly talk about me in a language you know I do not understand, I will say something.
It is called manners and if you use yours, I’ll use mine.
All I want to do is spend money- Spa treatments, Shop till you drop, Expensive champagne. Yeah right!! My husband works his ass to provide for us, he works long hours and frequently travels away from home – buying myself a new handbag or shoes won’t stop the loneliness or help when I’m up in the night with a sick child. If I ever thought to fritter away our money with such disregard I would be packed on a one way flight back home.
I have the best life- This is mostly true, I do have a blessed life. But always remember that you only see what I show you – I don’t often show the downside side to my life because I don’t want people to feel bad or only remember the bad things. You don’t see me when I cry, I don’t post when I’ve been harassed and no one hears how lonely this “Wife Life” life can really be.
So please, don’t judge us all in the same category just because we are married to a man who works hard for his family. Some of us actually want to be more than the spoilt rich bitch stereotype.
Until next time,